How I Lost Everything to Find Myself.

I was the teenager who saved 80% of her paychecks.

A young woman with a plan for the future.

The one who always thought a clear path meant a secure future.

I lived intentionally - steady direction, strong work ethic, everything mapped out. Or so I thought.

And yet, in my early 40’s, I found myself standing in a reality I never could have imagined.

The life I went all in on was the very one that came undone:

Post second separation,
Facing financial insecurity,
Losing my home,
Living out of my car while couch surfing for eight months and four days.
I remember asking myself, How did this happen?
How did I choose love so fully and go all in on a relationship - only to end up here - starting over in a housing market that had raced ahead while I was betting everything on love.

It wasn’t just about the financial uncertainty, or the reality of not having a permanent home for eight months and four days. It was about facing myself - no walls, no plan, no safety net - and deciding I was ALL IN on this comeback chapter of my life.

The Turning Point

That season of couch surfing and living out of my car was the hardest chapter of my life.

But it also became the catalyst for my All IN chapter.

I began to see that setbacks aren’t punishments - they’re invitations.

Invitations to grow stronger.

To redefine what matters.

To reclaim who I was.

Why I’m Sharing This

I’m sharing my story because I know I’m not the only one who’s ever whispered those words: “How did I end up here?”

If you’ve ever looked around at the pieces of a life you thought would last, wondering how it all changed so fast - this is for you.

The collapse didn’t define me. My next move did.

I went ALL IN on becoming the Kobe Bryant of emotional strength.